I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
Body image is something that’s so hard to talk about, and it’s hard to express body positivity without sounding cheesy, false, or overly simplistic. But I’m gonna try. This is only my own experience, and it didn’t magically cure me of all my body image issues - but it was a major turning point for me nonetheless.
Today, as I walked into the grocery store, some solicitor was outside trying to get signatures or money. I don’t even know what his cause was, because the first thing he said to me as I got closer was, “You dropped your smile.”
There are very few things in the world that make my blood boil like being told by a strange man to smile. But I was very restrained and ignored him. I went about buying my groceries and forgot about it. Then, as I was leaving the store, he saw me and said, “You going to talk to me this time?”
I stopped. I turned. I said this, with a smile:
"I’m going to give you a tip. All women, everywhere, all of them, hate being told to smile. It implies that we owe you something, or it’s our job to be pleasant or ornamental. We don’t owe you anything, and it’s not our f*cking job to be pleasant or ornamental. If you want to help your cause, stop telling women to smile, because it makes them want to punch you in the face. Which I won’t do."
Getting tired of all the monosexism and assumptions about Tom Daley that have appeared on my Facebook news feed. And not just tired but anxious, like it feels in an irrational way like that is my sexuality you’re erasing/making limiting assumptions about, stop it and I type out comments where I try to sound calm and rational instead of agitated
And it’s occurred to me before, but it’s hit me again how ridiculously fortunate I was as a budding bisexual kid that the point when I started realising I liked girls (at the start of secondary school) was also when I made a friend who got me into MCR and would mention that Frank and Gerard were bi, so the only thing I ever knew about bisexuality was that it was a real thing. Figuring myself out was confusing enough without ever having heard of biphobia/bi erasure, and hats off to anyone who has to deal with that, and right now I just want Tom Daley (who is my age! what even) to not have to deal with that shit and be able to stay label-less or identify as whatever he wants without people imposing shit on him
Imagine that Mulan loves singing and is a great singer, but since she’s usually so reserved, very few people know about it. But once in a while when she’s by herself sharpening her sword or doing some lazy morning exercise, she gets into the habit of singing to herself. Aurora finds out about this one day when she comes to the training yard to find Mulan and invite her to dinner, but instead overhears her singing from a distance. Aurora thinks it’s the most beautiful sound she’s ever heard. But when she moves closer, Mulan immediately hears her and stops singing, a little bit embarrassed.
Thereafter, Aurora makes it a game to see how many times she can sneak up on Mulan and hear her singing without being found out.
Sleeping Warrior/Hunger Games AU where Mulan had been posing as a boy to avoid the reaping because the population in the district was strangely skewed to males. Then Aurora get’s picked so Mulan volunteers as the boy tribute to protect her.